When survival mode stole my self-identity, I found it in self-compassion and faith.
Whitney Akins Whitney Akins

When survival mode stole my self-identity, I found it in self-compassion and faith.

I’ve been speaking a lot lately about the difficult process of untangling oneself from years of trauma, anxiety, and fight or flight. This untangling involves forming a self-identity that was suppressed under the chaos of survival mode. Recently, I’ve had several conversations with women and men who have realized that they do not even know themselves.

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Becoming Assertive After Trauma, Anxiety, and Codependency
Whitney Akins Whitney Akins

Becoming Assertive After Trauma, Anxiety, and Codependency

being assertive is especially difficult after they have endured trauma or struggle with anxiety and codependency in relationships.
Many toxic relationships force a person to lose their sense of self as they begin to distrust themselves and others. This creates a cycle of low self-esteem, fear of conflict, and attachment issues. This cycle can create poor boundaries that leave the person feeling invisible and fearful in the relationship.

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Boundaries that Every Codependent Teen and Adult Female Should Set
Whitney Akins Whitney Akins

Boundaries that Every Codependent Teen and Adult Female Should Set

I’ve finally had my breaking point and realized the toxic nature of my narcissistic relationship. I begin counseling only to learn that I have no idea who I am or what I want out of life. I have given every ounce of my personhood to my partner or friend and sacrificed my authentic self-identity in the process. How do I heal the brokenness left behind from a destructive relationship and rebuild my values and self-esteem?

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